LIFE AFTER BREAST CANCER: DEBORAH HODGES-PEARCE
My name is Deborah Hodges-Pearce. I’m 63 and have been married to my wife for 19 years. Before breast cancer became part of my life, I served as a police officer for many years. I’ve always been practical and hands-on, and in my spare time I enjoy DIY, keeping active and spending time with my family. Since retiring from the police, my wife and I have built our own painting, decorating and maintenance business — and I like keeping busy.
YOUR JOURNEY
My first diagnosis came in 1996 when I was 34. I was shocked, of course, but relieved that I only needed a lumpectomy and radiotherapy. The hospital recommended chemotherapy due to my age, but because there was no spread, I chose not to have it.
Twenty years later, in 2016, the cancer returned — two tumours, different grades and sizes. This time I needed a mastectomy and decided to have the other breast removed too, to avoid living in fear of a third diagnosis. Over the next three years I went through ten operations and even developed sepsis after the last one.
The hardest part was telling my twin girls, who were only eleven. I reassured them I wasn’t going anywhere, but I knew they were scared. During my second diagnosis, my wife was my absolute rock. It was hard on her too — she has autism and ADHD — but she stood by me through everything.
At work, my police colleagues supported me brilliantly during my first diagnosis, and my then-husband did what he could. The second time, my wife carried the emotional weight. I honestly believe it can be harder for the people who love you; you’re so focused on getting through treatment that you don’t always see what they’re shouldering for you.
Cancer has changed my outlook. Now I do what I want, when I want. I don’t let cancer stop me — I’ll give anything a go.
CONFIDENCE, IDENTITY & BODY IMAGE
I didn’t realise how much losing my nipples would affect me. One of my daughters nominated me for a free 3D nipple tattoo at Inkantations in Towcester, and I was lucky to be chosen. After two sessions I had one nipple tattooed. The other side was too flat to tattoo, but having even one made a huge difference. Only then did I realise how much I’d been avoiding mirrors.
Clothing and underwear have been difficult — things can sit lopsided, and it’s frustrating. But confidence, for me, is about being pragmatic. I’ve always been that way. Both my tumours were ER+, and you can’t control your hormones, so I know it wasn’t anything I did wrong.
FINAL REFLECTIONS
If I could speak to my younger self, I’d say: stay positive, ask questions, and don’t give up.
Being part of this campaign matters to me because if sharing my story helps even one woman feel less alone, it’s worth it. That’s why I still go to Breast Friends Northampton. I only wish it had existed during my first diagnosis.
My message is simple: stay positive. Ask for support when you need it. And never stop asking questions — it’s your body, and you deserve to have a say in every part of your care.
MY ELOISE EXPERIENCE
My fitting at Eloise was such a positive experience. I came in excited to be properly fitted and was surprised by how much choice there was. Everything felt relaxed, and wearing lingerie that actually fit made me feel even and confident. ‘Fleur’ was a standout for me – specialist lingerie really helps you feel like yourself again after breast surgery. I’d tell anyone going through it: get yourself to Eloise.
